Maybe true for the average person, but most people I know are attracted to that. I mean, seriously, you think being shy isn’t endearing to guys? Just look at the vastly-male-demographic fandom you’re posting this in!
Define:
Coy : using shyness to be more attractive (Though Fluttershy, as we know, is legitimately shy, not just coy).
To bring this issue to heart, I actually know someone who’s kind of stuck in a miserable place in their life; because of self-esteem issues
and social anxiety, as well as him being tall - which is intimidating - he has more or less given up on getting a girlfriend.
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Sexist, you say this comment was? It’s definitely sexist, but the thing I’m uncertain about is whether this is highlighting sexism towards men because he feels incapable of meeting society’s expectations (the [] bit), or sexist towards women for the opening and closing sentences.
You know what’s sexist? The ideals where men are supposed to be the ones who do all the fighting for the girl, who are supposed to work to support the girl, where men are supposed to pay the bills - and even before marriage, pay for the dinners - for the girl, where it’s not okay for men to be sensitive or express pain (but we have to “take it like a man”/stoicism), so the girl can lean on
our shoulders, but it’s never okay for us to lean on them, and then we get drafted and sent to die in hell-on-Earth, fighting to protect the girl - right alongside millions of other
men forced to fight in hell-on-Earth and die for their countries.
Heck, just thinking of it almost makes me mad at the original picture. Do women owe us anything after all that?
But nevermind, all this anti-male sexism is actually something I’m okay with. Personally, I
want to be able to provide for my future wife and family to where she isn’t forced to work, and I certainly don’t want her name to ever have to appear on draft rolls,
because I love her.
But, yeah, getting back on-topic to your comment; social anxiety is hard to deal with whatever gender you are, but I stand by the assertion, that at least
in general, it’s something men struggle with more than women, if not just because we’re the ones society expects to “go out there and ask her.” And when esteem issues enter the picture, the combination is catastrophic for someone’s personal life, as I’ve seen.
But as I said; it’s not to downplay
your own problems, all that stuff I said is only a statistical-mean-sum kinda thing; it in no way represents every single case.
And, yes, the grass is certainly greener on the other side. I’ve had a great group of friends growing up most my life, but I’m not sure if it’s just me, or if it’s because these are
male friendships, but generally speaking, guys don’t share the same kind of intimate friendships women do.
This actually made me tear up quite a bit, because despite having a good group of friends, I’ve hardly ever felt this emotionally intimate with any of them, because of that “stoicism” thing, where even just showing any bit of weakness or “sappiness” or anything to another guy is
extremely uncomfortable.
In any case,
this will probably be very interesting for you, and pretty much anyone else curious about this sort of thing.
And to be completely clear, I don’t mean to downplay your problems
as an individual (all the downplay bits are referring to generalizations rather than your specific case), and I’m only sexist in the sense that I believe
in being a Gentleman; ie, stoic, supporting a family, paying the bills, opening the door, etc.
I think each gender comes with its challenges, and because they’re different, it’s comparing apples and oranges to try to say “which is worse to have to put up with.”
But that being said, I’d be lying if I said I haven’t wondered what It’d be like, “Somewhere Over the Rainbow,” if I had been born on what seems to be the greener side of the fence, from here. Heh, my favorite episode is “Look Before You Sleep”…