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Antisocial Dilemma  
by Michdruch

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forgets everything
Asocial, not antisocial. A = none (“A-thiesm”), anti=against. An antisocial person would be AGAINST other people and probably trying to hurt them.
 
Sorry for being pedantic, but that’s just a pet peeve of mine. Just like “10 items or less.”
 
With that aside, that full moon of hers will find a cure for her problem.
Eeveeinheat
Equality - In our state, we do not stand out.
Magical Inkwell - Wrote MLP fanfiction consisting of at least around 1.5k words, and has a verified link to the platform of their choice

@NotMetaB  
You are overthinking, as well as under thinking, something and coming to the wrong conclusions. Life only relies on reality, and the properties of reality are by definition non-contradictory. If something appears to be a contradiction, then that is your own thoughts.
NotMetaB
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@Eeveeinheat  
Not when you consider the thought that to live is to be in a constant of instability with little to no regard to the laws of man or God. Without God there is no life. Without life there is only death. To die is to be in hell.
 
And before anyone else does this, “Do, do not do. There is no do, only try.”
Jaggarunder
The End wasn't The End - Found a new home after the great exodus of 2012

potato wizard
@NotMetaB  
I was writing about the asocial dilemma that this picture (Luna, #1110573) is about. It was supposed to be an explanation of (at least my take of) the issue, and maybe some encouragement for others. I followed the first several sentences of your response, and I partially agree, but the sentence structure got really heavy after that and you lost me. Nonetheless, I appreciate the thoughtful response.
NotMetaB
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@Jackarunda  
I think you lack one perspective in all of this. The morally conscious that seems to only be among horrible people. If you spend your whole life around strong, morally convicted people and these people leave or die, in my situation, and you can’t find these traits in others, you’ll feel discouraged and reach a mentality that assumes vast majority of people are amoral monsters of men and women, just because you continually found yourself among poor role models after being around such good ones for so long. Eventually it becomes less of looking for good in others and finding good in yourself instead of others. Being kind, generous, and even insanely forgiving, but the corruption you faced without any outside support leaves even your best accomplishments feeling lackluster.  
And if you assume just moving and motivating yourself to do anything than tie nooses is easy, then you must’ve never suffered losing your best friend to discrimination, lose your girlfriend to dishonesty, and losing 3 of your family members to incurable disease doesn’t hurt, you must be drowning in your own bullshit, with all due respect.  
I understand situations are much worse for many people, but we live in an age where we are defined by the labels that society gives us. Gay, black, high-school dropout, teen mother, AIDS carrier, Democrat, Muslim.  
As much as I’d enjoy to dismantle these preconceptions and illogical notions, I have neither the power nor influence.  
“I cannot fuel a revolution on his own contempt or hysteria.”
Jaggarunder
The End wasn't The End - Found a new home after the great exodus of 2012

potato wizard
You just have to find the right people, or at the very least a right person. It’s extremely difficult, like finding a needle in an ocean. Everyone you run across always has some combination of behaviors, preferences or ideals that will make it very difficult to remain friends with them unless you purposefully keep your depth of interaction with them very shallow, but that’s not a very fulfilling friendship. The end result is that you just slowly push everyone away, one by one, due to each person’s unacceptable flaws, until there’s no one left who’s close to you. You then adopt a habit of continually deflecting interaction with strangers, abstaining from becoming close to anyone, since you know that a friendship with them is in all likelihood futile. You start to pick up on certain signs and cues in strangers that tip you off about that person’s unsuitability for friendship, like they way they dress (it’s not about the clothes, it’s about how the person dresses being indicative of a particular mental state) or other such trivial things, and you eventually settle on no-one.
 
This isn’t to say you’re perfect, goodness no, as everyone has their flaws. The primary issue is that there are overlook-able flaws, which people tend to refer to as ‘differences’, and then there are irreconcilable differences, which you view as downright idiocy. For instance, liking different styles of music is a difference. Believing oppositely on some important worldview issue (like morals, or anything that serves as a guiding principle for the person’s behavior) is an irreconcilable difference. It’s such a difference that each person can’t even fathom how the other person can believe what he/she does, and it either causes problems in conversation repeatedly, or it gets ignored. Now ignoring someone’s atrocious flaws might be feasible if it’s one isolated thing, depending on how adamant they are about it, or how much it applies to the person’s behavior around you, but the feasibility of the ignore/avoid approach deteriorates as the number of issues grows. At a certain point, you realize that you’re extensively policing your own words and actions around the other person and purposefully avoiding mentioning things to him/her that you would like to talk about, because you know it will create conflict. Either that, or their views on something like ethics or human courtesy are so different from yours (so wrong) that it causes them to engage in behaviors that irritate you to no end. With most people, the differences are too great, so you can never be yourself, or you can’t stand being around them. Of course you can get along with people, like acquaintances, colleagues or coworkers, but this ability hinges solely on your ability to tolerate/ignore everything that makes that other person unique. Getting along with someone is not friendship. Friendship is engaging with another person in a way that is meaningful to you and enjoying their company. It’s hard to enjoy engaging with people who are stupid or mean. When all is said and done, you’ve chosen to be alone, because it’s by far the least stressful option.
 
However, by interacting with no one, you bring your chance of finding the right person down to 0%. The upshot is that you only really need to find one, maybe two of the right people to be happy in terms of friendship. Everyone in life is happier with a companion or a small group of close friends. Find communities of intelligent and like-minded people. Skim through people, find individuals that look like promising candidates, and try to learn about each person without investing in them. It gets really hard if you’re trying to find people who are like you (and therefore are doing the same thing, withholding personal information from strangers), but you just have to keep trying. You have to be honest with yourself and others; do not build up a friendship on ignorance or deceit. And sometimes you may have to just overlook a flaw or two. I’m not sure. I really haven’t perfected this strategy yet.