So recently i figured out how to fine tune a bit of the settings in blender to be more of a gpu heavy ordeal in rendering than cpu, i thought i had done this before, but turns out i had forgotten to enable one more setting.
 
 
so after losing so much work last night i thought i would be spending a whole other day waiting on rendering, thinking “Oh man i wasted another whole day on this”  
but turns out it pointed me in a better direction!
 
 
Also this one is not the best quality as i had to optimize for this sites file size standards.