@Vallytine  
i kinda like the cuddle safe word stuff too.

@Eversquee  
I like it too.

@aerion111  
The more vocal folks in this group take it very far, though. Like saying if you find non-con stories arousing, you are exactly the same as a real life rape apologist. Someone else argued that that’s probably more a case of some people just being judgemental idiots, though, so… What that leaves us with is basically the BDSM version of Captain Planet.^_

@Background Pony #BF40  
Any ‘kinks’, excluding some very taboo ones (which I won’t even mention because I regret learning them myself), are generally going to be portrayed as ‘better’ than other kinks.  
After all, a culture or sub-culture you’re part of is going to seem more appropriate than one you aren’t part of.  
BDSM is better than sexual roleplay, which is better than exhibitionism, and so on; The thing you’re into, which you’ve spent a lot of time learning about and self-justifying, makes sense and hurts no one. The thing you’re not into is silly, mocks the very concept of romance, involves too much risk, and so on.
 
But, yes, the BDSM culture seems especially prone to ‘preaching’ like the annoying kind of vegan.  
Shrug I say chalk it up to a lot of people taking the ‘lifestyle’ more seriously than you would with a lot of other kinks - it’s kind of hard to make a ‘lifestyle’ out of dressing up like Han Solo in bed, for example.

@Vallytine
 
@Vallytine  
Thank you for spelling out the same problem I got. It’s so hammered in, I’m thinking the author is trying to guilt trip his readers. Plus, there’s this sense of thinking they’re better than folks with other kinks that’s really annoying.

@Vallytine  
The overemphasis on safety is mostly about drilling it into the heads of people who read up and decide they want to try it. You need experience before you can judge what isn’t needed for you, but it’s easy to fuck BDSM up if you don’t know what you’re doing (which you don’t the first time), so we try to err on the side of caution.

I guess, but when I do BDSM-related things with my partner, we don’t put massive emphasis on a safeword or drill it in that it’s so neccessary. We just have one or two words, or hand gestures during bondage and leave it at that. I guess it doesn’t help we enjoy having our limits pushed, lol.

@thps48  
yeah the society runs hidden city-size sites where people can go live out BDSM lifestyles while keeping consensual and safe practices. you wouldnt think that from the other pics with the clocktower tag its amazingly written and i actually like reading about the health and safety stuff in the lore.

@thps48  
No, no, it’s a secret society devoted towards the creation of a society as you describe. Or that’s what I got from the fic’s synopsis.

Hang on, this is a society based on consenual sex? XP

@LogicalExtropolation  
The author said in the description of his fic that he wrote it because there weren’t enough safe consensual BDSM fics out there (When I disagree, I think there isn’t enough of rougher fantasy ones.) And that idea was constantly drilled in throughout the whole thing.

@Vallytine  
Haven’t read it, might later. I can’t vouch for how it goes one way or the other, but on general principle it’s okay to not be subtle at all about a message that preaches non-abuse. It’s just one of those things: don’t be racist, it’s okay for people to like things you don’t like, make sure you don’t hurt your sex partners more than they want to be hurt.

My one problem with this fic is that the whole safe bdsm message is not subtle at all.

@Background Pony #80F6  
You know, I figure that would be such a common misconception that ponies would just eventually take it as the safeword for “I can’t remember which safeword I want right now, so just stop and ask please!”.

Decent fic so far…..

While I have never engaged in activities requiring a safeword in my life, as a communications matter I wonder if this sign could be better worded. I understand, after some thought, that it means safewords are always respected. However, it could very easily be misinterpreted to mean “The safeword to stop all activities is ‘Law’!”