i have a question
i have a character who had a very bad past where he seemed like the “villain” but now is reformed and he made friends with a similar past and got a girlfriend who works at a very NSFW job (if you know what I mean) but they have a good relationship but at one point something bad happened that caused the girl to get an injury that requires a hospital visit (and a blood transfusion with each other since there was no one else around also it was the 1800s so ya this idea was still new I think)
but after that life was normal and the guy wanted the girl to stay with him and his friends so he was about to explain his past along with his friends too and hope she will still be ok with him and stay with him (because he wants to be honest and trust her enough to explain this sensitive part of his life)
but due to factors such as the house not really ready for visitors or anyone new living in it since is dirty and broken still and him being banned from the place where the accident happened and then the girl wanted to quit so she can be with him, but this is where the idea comes in
the guy is stuck between the idea that the girl is willing to quit so she can be with him but now with the what-if idea of what if she reacts badly to his past and “the house is not ready for her” especially because before he asked if she can stay with them but one (who is the boss) says no due to the state of the house
so he decides to break up with her due to not wanting to hurt her with the idea that she’s been dating someone with a horrible past and not knowing how she would react to her friends having a similar past too so he has to let her go even though he also does not want to hurt her in this way by breaking up with her either
In the end, they do end up together again and yes she does know about his and his friends past but is ok because she is very understanding and sees that they turned good and joins them
so this is just a basic idea of a future story but I ask is this “self sacrifice for love” healthy and necessary in this case or unhealthy?
i just think this is a good story and to how much the character grew as a person but I don’t want it to be unhealthy due to the girl’s heartbreak and the guy’s friends having to see him all distressed becuase I think is a necessary sacrifice for the sake of love and his friend’s safety but I also don’t want him to look like he does not trust the girl, he does trust her but due to the situation he was in, the doubts and fears got the best of him so he had to do it becuase he does not know that she would have said yes to him
so what should I do because I don’t want it to be unhealthy or a weakness but something that is necessary to do
nor do I want to make the male character look selfish because he caused the girl heartbreak even if he did not mean to, too dramatic like if it was just some parody or him showing weakness due to something I read