Telling someone to ‘grow thicker skin’ is insensitive and close-minded. You have no idea how insulting this is. ‘Transgender transformation’ may be the accepted term among your group, but the far larger group of transgender individuals would prefer if you didn’t fetishize their condition.
‘Transgender’ is not the accurate term for this fetish, as these transformed people presumably have no gender dysphoria. Transgender is not a portmanteau of the words ‘transformation’ and ‘gender’. What if a group you find revulsive took a word you use to identify yourself to identify themselves with? What if pedophiles or Neo-Nazis started to call themselves ‘bronies’? How would that make you feel?
Do you know why ‘autogynephilia’ received such flak from the transgender community? Because Dr. Blanchard attempted to fetishize their condition, the same change of gender you fetishize and claim is not offensive, yet point out the offensiveness of the word ‘autogynephilia’ that fetishizes transsexualism. Your hypocrisy is astounding.
Yes, we need two tags for these two vastly different things. Not all transgender people identify as ‘transsexual’, as they don’t want to equate their condition with sexuality. This gender swap transformation fetish could be handled with the tags ‘gender swap’ and ‘transformation’ (not difficult to search for), or if you must have a single tag, ‘genderbent’.
You can call your fetish whatever you want, but it needs a unique tag so I and everyone else who is offended by it can block it and never have to see or deal with it.